Reddit i told my stepfather who raised me update. You need to do what feel right for you.

Reddit i told my stepfather who raised me update My (step) daughter told me if I ever put my hands on her mom again then she’d kick my ass. he is not entitled to a relationship with you if you don't want one. My step dad raised me, loved me, took care of me, taught me, showed up for me. My mother comes from a very strict and Christian family, and even though it's petty, me and Jay are very revenge oriented about this whole situation, so when my aunt texted me that she told my grandparents, we knew that wouldn't end well. For context, my mom and step dad got married about 10 years ago. I'm a step daughter. Yeah, my mom said she'd pay for my wedding, and we'd have it in her city 5 hours away. From that day until 2 days ago he never spoke or contacted me, or any of my family. My mom and I are not close she walked out when I was 4 and had me on weekends but I spent 80% of my time with her parents and my aunt as she was to busy with whoever she was dating at the time. My mom pulled me aside and I told her everything. I took his phone and told him to his room until his dad came back but instead he ran out and went to his mom’s. Q caught her in time and told my mother that she needed to tell me the truth. I appreciate what he's done, but I've adjusted that scale. And I'm sorry for what your going through. My bio-father was still in my life but I saw very little of him, maybe three times a year even though he only lived an hour away. NTA. He also told me I should apologize too, since I'd "overreacted" by telling Harold I hated him for such a small reason. I started to really like him, but he liked my friend. Offered my $10,000 not to get married and wait until we graduated college. So when I told him that he especially had no right, and that I did blame him for how my dad died, he told me I was being unfair, he told me how cold it was, that he has been in my life for 22 years now and I should embrace him and give my child the gift of a loving grandparent. It literally almost killed me. the thing is, he would randomly slap my ass or poke random parts of my body. He had a 1 year old son, and then they had a daughter a year later together. I had second degree burn on my cheek and neck. My life was instantly better. Finally, one day, I drank until I passed out and aspirated my own vomit. She told me he has been seeing a therapist for the last 2 years because he has been suffering from depression and guilt. My (step) dad has been my rock my whole life. After they left I told my coach I never wanted to see him again and txted my dad we were done. He knew dating/marrying me that she was just as important. Weren't nice to OP, either. He looked at me and said, "that's sad, hate to hear that from anyone. I told my wife everything, she already knew what happened in the past with my parents, she just told me that she understood, that, according to what I told her, my father died when he kicked me out of his house, so who did I hit was just a stranger with his face, I found her comparison funny and I agreed with her, she told me that if they tried . F hit me again before I left, (not talking about the slap I mentioned when asking for my passport) he knew I was leaving to join mom and he tried to intimidate me into staying. Though i was not told about this untill hours before my biological fathers death. Edit: Parents found out I was renting rooms out because SIL basically stalked me in some way. In a sad, desperate attempt to get closer to him, I told him what my step father did to me. He told me I should have had compassion knowing how hurt she was by her mother’s abandonment. I told here he never treated me as any thing closely as a son so why should i call him dad any more. When my mom got pregnant with me she had been cheating on my step father and assumed the man who raised was my biological father and gave him full custody. More unbearable than losing the father figure. Lmao 3-4 years before school I'm sorry. I mean she does, but not really. The last time I saw any of my mom's family was when I was 8 and one of my aunts mentioned this monster was in prison for raping another aunt. I signed the papers that day. When i got home late in the evening my mom wanted to know why i called K by his first name. I told my husband what they said but he brushed me off. My stepdad is so nice and literally my only father figure so to know he abandoned his biological kids is crazy. But this move did not include me. My mom died when I was 4 (I'm now 36) and my dad never hid the fact my mom was raped and abused by her stepfather, and kept us away from her side of the family, I guess to protect my sister and me. So as far as I'm concerned he is my father, he "raised" me. You need to do what feel right for you. My parents and Dan, not so much. After all that I became a secondary character in their life and they looked forward to ship me off to the other home so they could pretend that I didn't exist and play happy family. My step brother and I are 16 now and our half sister is 14. camp helper, and And I bolted out the door and told her to fuck off, boy was I not ready for the slap my dad gave me but all I remember was swinging a punch at him and knocking him down and my coach pulling me off my dad. They just replied with “we love you so much Dad”. More than my father ever did for me. Since then my parents haven't bothered me once about the house. He met my mom around the same age as you met your wife. 2nd, I never had any type of affair with my father and I am about to throw up from reading that. My stepdad kept asking me why Im acting weird and I didnt say anything at first. My mom (40) never would tell me… My father married his mistress who allready had a son and now they have a baby daughter. As it turns out this so called “friend” was suddenly interested in playing dad. He's a step father who isn't my dad, but who I still appreciate nevertheless. When I told her we're having it here so my wife's parents and family could come, she clammed up. I say “I’m taking my sister, niece, and her friend as a graduation present” and she asks her dad if she can go and he asks why I didn’t ask her and I say “we made this plan when I asked her if she wanted to watch a show with me and my niece and she told me I’m not her mom and she doesn’t want to do things with me and she wants My mom took me to the emergency room and my son insisted on coming with me. Growing up I always noticed that he treated me differently, he never mistreated me but he was always more interested his own children than me, in fact he always showed very little interest in me. I found out about him by accident when I was 7. I’m telling you this as someone who was adopted by my mother’s partner after they raised me for my whole life. Inside was a note that said that I was the best dad they could have ever asked for and then adoption papers. 3rd, I was a 90lb 22 yr old when I met my husband who was 18 1/2 yrs older than me and I was going through a horrible divorce from an 26 votes, 13 comments. He quickly became my real dad as i got older due to my biological father being inconsistent in my life. After he quit, I went to church camp, flirting with a jr. She tried to hit me and I pushed her out of my house. My stepfather really had my trust but now I’m rethinking every moment we spend together. Yes he was most likely under the influence of alcohol. My siblings were pissed too and called me a spoiled brat amongst other things. He was afraid of the consequences if I opened up to mom about what he’d been doing to me. They both went to their mom’s place. Ever since, he’s been acting like a child, even going as far as telling my mother that she shouldn’t spend MY college fund on a “selfish bitch” like me. The OOP is u/ThrowRA999333 posting in r/TrueOffMyChest. My mom says that he has no right to control my future, but what I said was out of line. I said a lot of mean things to my step father after he treated me like a child and told all of his friends that my mother didn’t raise me right and that nobody in my house wanted me and that’s why I didn’t go on a family trip. So things are good for me. com . I asked them if I was going to lose them when I stopped contact with SD. I told my parents I wanted to keep the baby, and Ian was apoplectic. My siblings have been wanting to build a relationship and make up for lost time. I ended up actually being fine with this, as my grandparents had agreed to take me in. When she was 15 we found out she wasn’t my biological daughter and my wife had cheated on me years ago with a friend. AITA for telling the stepfather who raised me that he’s not my dad when he didn’t treat me like his son? “My mom married my step father when I was only 1. In laws didn't like me, so they didn't pay one dime for anything. Dear Prudence, My stepfather, “Ian,” married my mom when I was 3. Don't worry Reddit i'm not looking for a pity party or any sympathy, it just that i'm being attacked by all sides of my family for this. i told my stepfather who raised me update 4. It took my by surprise she told me that it started when i was 15. Now, I understand why. He told the dean, the dean talked to me, and then the cops were called. if possible, please talk to your mom about how you feel about him constantly pushing himself onto you, and when your mom tells him personal things about you that you don't want him to know. i was honestly pumped at first because he had daughters that were around my age, they’re my best friends now. He raised me as his own. Q. The thought and potential of losing my siblings when I decided to go nc with my step dad was unbearable. Posted by u/yeahnoyeahnoyeahno30 - 157 votes and 5 comments The next day, my dad told me about the call. If my mother’s partner had done what your husband did, and my mother stayed with them, I’d never have forgiven her and would have left home the second I could. Then she told my parents, and then my parents contacted me. She had no answer and she told me he was hurt by it. My biological father has another family and staying with him is not an option. he didn’t take off my clothes or touch me directly, so i didn’t think much of it. I went home this week and things have just been awkward. For the people saying my husband and mother were idiots for not talking to me before: they agree and have told me this. I felt I needed them. And then my mother came over to cry about it. I would be dead now except the mail man dropped a package addressed to me to my I can’t imagine how it must feel to go nc with most of your family of origin. There's so many shit stepped parents, we see stories here all time. true So long story short my mom kept my birth dad from me my whole life. My Mom and he married when I wasn't quite two years old. I was raised by my step-father. I was raised by my step father before I can even remember anything else. I am not the OOP. This is breaking my heart for you. My wife and I divorced, my daughter learned the truth and I told her I still loved her no matter what. She says he's 95% of the way for being a dad to me, I shouldn't ignore all of that and focus on the missing 5% and reject him entirely. one time, he walked in on my changing and he Aug 30, 2022 · 1354 Likes, TikTok video from Dreekos (@dreekos): “Feeling marginalized by my stepfather's favoritism towards his biological children, I confronted him. The only reason my mom even told me, was because my younger sister was planning to message me and tell me that I was Q’s daughter and that her and my other siblings existed. Then I told him that if he wanted to start being a dad again, he was going to have to earn that title from my brother, and earn trust from me before I felt comfortable enough to just hand over the reins to him. I’ve always felt like a second class This stories was made with a pinch of saltIf there is a copyright issue, please contact me by emaildanielaveryjr954@gmail. He was dying of cancer when I told him, at 38, I was going to get divorced, he had his last lucid moment. When I was 17, I got pregnant. I(29F) made my step-father(50M) an outsider at my wedding that he paid for. I’m Still Angry. He has helped raise her and disciplined her, and shared her best and worst moments with her. In my case, my 2 children belonged to their respective fathers whom I was married to at the time of their births. Maybe I just got lucky. Maybe he's my dang guardian angel, who knows! All I know is that your post made me want to share my experience with my step dad, who is now the best granddad in the world to my son. My husband specially. I am 25F and my mom met my step dad when i was 9 years old. My mother is the person most pissed off at me at the moment. I asked her why K was hurt by me calling him his first name. He said I should forgive Harold for what he thought was an honest misunderstanding. I declined, said he's the one who needs to apologize if he wants things to change between us. My coach told my dad and his wife to leave. My husband is step-dad to my child and he is waiting for the day she asks. I got my own room again, and my grandparents gifted me a brand new N64 in 1996. My mother screamed at me and told me to get out. I lost my cool and f***** told her that she and her daughter took advantage of my money and was selfish to leave her 2 young children alone with me (I work 45 hours at my business) and decided it would be a good idea to invite her deadbeat ex who literally tried to lay his hands on me years ago, she responded by saying it was her daughter idea I will be in 3 months time walking my daughter down the isle WOOHOO! She said she still wants me there but that her mum has apparently said she wants stepdad to walk her down the isle as a way of accepting him into the family She said if she refuses she won’t be coming and neither will stepdad and she will never speak to them again. A few days later my daughter in laws come to my house and a question was asked by the in-law targeting my daughter asking who's going to walk her down the aisle, my daughter announced it was her deadbeat effing clown of a father, my fiancée was in shock from her announcement and my daughter kept going on about how they been in touch and the My mom told me in the end that this is the man who has raised me all my life and I need to apologize and show remorse. your stepfather continues to disregard your boundaries for his wants. I spoke to my dad like many of you suggested, and told him the truth about what my childhood was like due to his emotional absence. Then there you. My (25m) mom abandoned me when I was 3, from the ages of 5 to 16 I experienced extreme abuse from my “father”. 1 update - Medium. 6984 Likes, 102 Comments. Step father is the only father figure I know and Oct 14, 2024 · Step father is the only father figure I know and I’ve always called him dad, my actual dad is not in my life. When I went home, my husband was so mad at me for assaulting SD by using force to get her to her room. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Jay originally wanted to contact CPS but later changed his mind when he heard that I told our aunt. My Daddy. To my surprise she didnt react. My mom told me in the end that this is the man who has raised me all my life and I need to apologize and show remorse. when i was around 12-13, i had this step dad since my real dad passed away. My dad refused to pay for my wedding because I was so young. #capcut #redditstories #reddit #redditreadings”. TikTok video from Story Files (@storyfilesofficial): “I told the stepfather who raised me that he's not my dad and he never treated me like his son PART 3 #reddit #askreddit #redditstories #redditreadings #redditcomments #redditstorytime #storytime”. I didn’t say anything at the time but I have already decided that I will not be going as I won’t be direspected like this. When I was ten, my parents decided they were gonna move away. I was raised by my dad's parents because my dad was too busy working all the time. Her dad is in her life minimally (his choice), and when she talks about Papa (my husband) to her friends, she calls him "dad". I assume they all love step-dad and are really upset to see OP be so hurtful towards him. Also, should add. The day fast approaching and she told me she has chosen her stepdad to walk her down the isle as they have really bonded over the past 11 years. I've been getting up and ignored everyone, I could feel them staring at me everytime. I have a feeling that SD knew something that only I knew and was waiting to catch him in the act. TL;DR I tempted my step-father into molesting me. That Christmas I got a Gameboy Pocket too. Since this And please don't tell me that stepparents don't have to love their stepkids the same because my daughter doesn't have a father and considers my husband to be her dad. She came over and it was a big argument. My stepfather raised me since I was 10, he taught me math in school and I used to hug him a lot because my relationship with my biological father is not the best. Original - 6th May 2024. My mom remarried my step dad and they had my half sister. My mom told me in the end that this is the man who has raised me all my life and I need to apologize and show remorse. My Stepfather Made Me Get an Abortion as a Teen. I always considered him my true dad because I thought he loved me as a true son, now I know I don't have a true dad. Many of Harold's past comments were made with my father close by. She is the only one that still does not talk to me. I started to drink, and stayed drunk for weeks. Last night my daughter came up to me and asked me why I didn't show up to her competition and I told her I wasn't her mom so why would I? I can already see the yta and I raised my husband kids and stuff. Update - 9th May 2024. thank you I told him that he was only the man that fucked my mother- not my dad. My wife helped them get the papers without me knowing so they could surprise me. I got married at 19, and i requested that my step dad gave me away. Ongoing as per OOP. He dint respond and told me it was nothing so i went to catch the buss. I just gave my kids the biggest hug I could give and told them that I would love to adopt them. vbbg rveon xncz gbs kfnxz osq oym pihfuaqy yxlqtmis lgorhm