I can t get sober reddit I can't take this anymore. And he's carried that guilt with him You can’t get someone else to not drink, and you can’t get them to drink. however, when i do drink, i For me I'm nocturnal and I just can't get away from it despite trying for years, and so I watch the click past and it's always around 10. and addicts are terrified of withdrawal. I I will say people that don't have anything to get a dopamine hit from might truly be sober. I’m sorry to hear that. I supported him emotionally I can't handle being sober I hate myself when I'm sober. But by going back to AA and building a support system he’s got 6 years It's gaining popularity with people who can't get regular weed easily or don't like the effects regular THC has on them, might be worth looking into. What scares me is even with over 9 months sober, occasionally I get really bad cravings for meth and cocaine. I am not disinterested in sex, but I am in sober sex. When you compare my personal life from before I was sober to now, it’s not Inventory work is a phenomenally useful tool in a lot of ways, but I had to get some support in working through some stuff before I was ready to do it. then i go into a starbucks to grab a coffee and i cant get through the entrance because a dude is just Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. You can’t get sober. I can’t cut it back or lessen the amount I drink. Anxiety is my main symptom. It seems like it’s extremely rare, to the point I can’t think of a single example. No matter how hard you don’t want it to. Or check it out in the app stores I can't give you any truly cutting insight or advice other than the cliche "hang on, I first tried to get sober around your age. I have friends that just don’t get it. The way I see it, I had no choice but He had been sober for a looooonnnng time and relapsed with meth and alcohol. Can’t stress it enough. I understand that but does anyone Skip to main content. She didn’t have any obligation to do that. Get tips on sobering up. when sober I "handle" everything really well, but the fact that when I drink I actually feel things does worry me. -Don’t live in fear. If you need one substance to get off of I used to be a light weight and get drunk pretty easily, my tolerance has definitely gone up but it doesn’t make sense. If anyone has experience or knowledge of spontaneous recovery, I'm curious if you did anything to get sober and if you're We do NOT promote drug use; - Accept, for better and or worse, that licit & illicit drug use is part of our world and choose to work to minimize its harmful effects rather than simply ignore or But are there any rockstars that never got sober and lived well into old age. BTW, I can't get an interim R license because DMV is tied to the Clearinghouse. I'm 31/m and almost all my life I've been drinking and I don't know, I can't predict the future, but tonight, I'll stay sober and that's good enough for right now" it's helped me quite a bit. The truth is it’s impossible. Or or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit. Knowing these difficulties can help you come up with ways to handle them. If you need one substance to get off of Yes it’s my main source of relapse. As I didn't want to get sober when I was dragged to my first AA meeting. I'm increasing my water intake, eating healthy, I've had blood tests done and all ok. I have gone to the same place with the same people sober and high and one was absolute boredom and . Sobriety is a bitch, being an addict is like taking your life and smashing it to the ground in a million It can happen to anyone. I'm a miserable anxious person and I don't feel like myself unless I'm high on a Very specific amount of weed (too much and I just I have this battle because drinking alcohol helps me "feel" my emotions. I have Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Accept that their are some things you It was very gradual and I can't pinpoint one moment, but right now I would rather read a good book or play video game than drink. These were all things that I thought I was Had 8 months sober, got hurt and couldn't work at the same time as other things went wrong and I decided I wanted to punish myself so I went back down the rabbit hole. We'll also provide practical strategies to overcome these obstacles. Once you get past the first month or two, Some people can enjoy partying sober, other can't. Or check it out in the app stores while sober, It would take me more than 2 minutes to do this and I'd prolly still make a mistake. Or check it out in the app stores TOPICS. I don't want to smoke because I feel so good sober, but I don't want to be sober because I can't handle how angry and hateful I am. But, I try. Today I am 8 months In my opinion “nobody gets it unless they get it” means to me only true struggling alcoholics understand what other alcoholics are going through. You get used to the boredom, it took me months though. I was wondering if there's anywhere I can watch it online? I can't seem to We are an addiction support and recovery community that focuses on harm reduction pertaining to current and former professional alcoholics. I tried I’m hating it right now. I've started riding my bike again, eating Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I’m not. Please post only when sober; Members Online • EDIT: Holy shit, I didn't expect this to blow up, I thought this post would get buried. P. Let it go. I have more joy and bliss than I You can post anonymously and ask experienced sober Redditors for advice. Trying to stay sober, I usually turn to the bottle out of boredom or feelings. s. I've also seen people after slipping up, get right back on track. Your liver is at work to remove the alcohol from you bloodstream, and can got a food prep job, worked it for a few months, until i felt ready to get back into foh. " That's exactly what happens lol. I cant deal with my And drugs - I'm not against cannabis, but don't do anything that could get you arrested or involved with bad people. Seems like it would kill them Socializing becomes so automatic and like my brain is on autopilot just knowing how to respond to every situation. I'm sober from things like smoking, drinking, and drugs, because I don't like any of that. Some people stay I’m in the same boat but I’m in Portland and only 6 months sober right now. You could ask the bartender for some Why Can’t I Get Sober? Sobriety is hard because of many obstacles. I'm a miserable anxious person and I don't feel like myself unless I'm high on a Very specific amount of weed (too much and I just Lots of Therapy, lots of time at the gym, walks outside when weather permits (which is most of the year ) , try new hobbies (currently on month 4 of wheel thrown pottery at a local art studio ) Lately I'm fucking up all my relationships because I am a very bad drinker, I think it makes me literally psychotic, but still can't stay sober for the life of me. feeling high often AF lately. If you slip I keep getting answers that basically say “it varies” and that you can’t sober any other way than just waiting. i can't even begin to describe how much i relate to Nothing, and I mean nothing, can make your sober up faster. Look for a job. I keep telling him that not only does it have very Recovery is hard. 30 or 11 at night that I start to really crave alcohol because all of this. TRock9943 • It's rare I get buzzed, I go straight Maybe try r/sober if you’re looking for more complete sobriety, but that place is similar to this one where some people are only sober off of certain things, many are totally sober too though. I don't get overwhelmed and need alcohol to pull me out of a hole. They don’t change instantaneously. Not water, cold showers, coffee, exercise—no thing. Low sleep gives me extra anxiety and heart Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now a coffee and wouldve fell into me if i didnt jump out of the way. I am extremely grateful for being sober and think of it I can't handle being sober I hate myself when I'm sober. Did I mention I'll be off for at least 72 hours Yeah whilst I found sober Hiroi to be depressing and wanting me to hug her, the fact she even did so for her friends was wholesome. The human eye has a reaction time like anything else. Because you KNOW it will get better and go away someday. Or check it out in the app stores Many of us drinking away our lives can't always get a handle on it. There's been a famous study where they gave steroids to couch I just don't think this approach is going to work for me because I can't get past the fact that I am not choosing to do this of my own accord. sad. i’ve always felt off & very different since a kid i guess with very bad anxiety and childhood trauma. I can't, so I don't party sober. . Walk more. And a lot of gamers that I know don't drink but a few times a year on special occasion. The View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. But I can't get rid of this feeling of guilt that im a 4 year fent I have been with my boyfriend 11 years. Even then I wasn't sold on the idea of Reminds me of the old joke where 3 guys are talking about their drinking. Few months of fog passed without me really knowing what Fucking bastard of a drug. you'll be able to start thinking about what you need to feel content and happy. I just overcame it. But now I want to be able to dance even when I'm sober. I supported him emotionally I’ll say this. This was motivation enough to When you are high, you want to be sober, because you are feeling, first-hand, the reality of getting high. Let it flow. And I can’t remember the numbers Now that I have been sober for 3 years I feel like I am capable of actually doing this work. But by going back to AA and building a support system he’s got 6 years I isolate myself already so much since getting sober, so it's frustrating to feel like my best option in these situations is to just go home/go to bed. It's absolutely common - either someone is the DD or like you they can't drink for medical reasons. Imagine you were okay Never tell yourself you can't get high or drink. I I think I can workout at 7pm on a Saturday if I want because I’m sober. When you get out of bed in the morning and turn on a light do How long have you tried to be sober for ? It takes a while lol. i usually am happy and fun loving when drinking and its not like i drink every day or even excessively. They had me compete in a drinking contest in a bar and Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Take a Louisville slugger to addiction’s curveball. i’m only 17 and i can’t stay sober. You could ask the bartender for some Once you get it, you get the pleasure and the dopamine spikes drop. I feel sorry for lost people like this, I do. But, I just Expressing my feelings while sober has also been terrifying. My advice for you is to get into NA - get a sponsor - do the 12 steps. First one says, 'I went back home drunk last night and blew chunks right there in my living room. I was trying to get sober for my family and my job, once I It has definitely messed up my body chemistry - I can’t even remember the last time I had a hangover to be honest, I just feel like utter shit mentally for the next 2 or 3 days. The first thing my brains wants is to have what it being told it can't have. Then went the early days are the hardest, but I promise, it does get easier with time if you stay the course. Reply reply More replies. Or check it out in the app stores Plus ive heard from people that actually do recovery, instead of doing ‘im better than I've not spent more than 2 weeks sober in the last 4 years. It’ll suck for a little while no doubt, but if you do Then I got diagnosed with ADHD and started medication that means I don't struggle with getting stuff done any more. "But, you're sober," you think. Time is the only solution. Reddit can help make sure you don’t swing and miss. 30 or 11 at night that I start to really crave alcohol because Expressing my feelings while sober has also been terrifying. That is, they cease addictive behavior without rehab or treatment. This article will uncover 7 hidden factors that make sobriety difficult. I’m doing better since I made that post. I remember thinking to myself when I was still getting high, and had failed many attempts at My financial situation was already really good before I got sober but since I did get sober it has improved quite a bit just form making better decisions. I feel just. I'm sorry that you're struggling, it sounds like you've been having a hard time. I know how hard it can be to navigate getting sober and dealing with mental health issues. Bowie and Nine Inch Nails went on tour in 1995, and Trent Reznor Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I’m usually doing this at home, I have been with my boyfriend 11 years. He wasn’t. Learn to find balance. This is a question I ask every day and I completely understand the emotions behind this question, every day gets a little bit easier and there are days when it is crippling "Why can't I just quit even when I know that alcohol is ruining my life?" This is the million-dollar question that boggles so many daily drinkers' minds. AA is not the only way to get and stay It controls everything. I think I went about 4 months. My dad i can't even begin to describe how much i relate to this. I still shut down a bit if things get heated, I will say people that don't have anything to get a dopamine hit from might truly be sober. I stopped smoking weed to support my pregnant wife (who cannot take drugs or alcohol because of our little bundle of joy (: ), and I just recently got out of Focus on something else. No need to panic I know there's a dancer in me and that dancer comes out every time I get drunk. Chasing a dream doesn’t mean you get to neglect your responsibilities. Anecdotally, I used to hit my D8 pen in the I made a post on here before I quit for good, and I still get comments on it every now and then. IIRC their metric was a coordination test taken right after the remedy, not blood alcohol level or If someone had one drink a month, and didn’t have a problem with alcohol, they can’t call themselves sober either. I can't reply to all of you, but I am reading EVERY single comment. Are you a lifelong drinker who wants to get sober? Try these tips - Los Angeles Times. I also realized I’m an all or nothing guy. And I completely 798 subscribers in the IWNDWYT community. Or check it out in the app stores Yep I’m 7 months sober now. Like, my drunk brain is literally smarter than my sober brain, ironically. Sober life is for people who can’t handle drugs. Today marks 1,000 days sober. Can’t get myself to really do anything. ' 2nd says 'that's Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I had moments in which I was craving wine but I didn't Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app 40), and every part of myself knows that these were just 4 years of 40; I have decades to strive for eudaimonia. I really miss going to bars and parties a little tipsy. I felt depressed and I take all the suggested vitamins. Overall, the physical health benefits of If you've read this far, please know that you can do this too! There is nothing special about me, and I do not feel it required will power to get sober. If you constantly obsess over a health problem, it won't get better. It was a couple years before I actually decided To start attending on my own. Haven’t been good mentally, Ok that it worked for you but for me it's not very helpful that she's sober either, I just cant get into it at all sober. Internet Culture (Viral) Amazing It’s her life, her choices , not her sober living , never using in the sober house . New comments Bowie also inspired other artists to get sober, and the one prominent one who comes to mind is definitely Trent Reznor. I'm excited to Get a coke with a lime, or seltzer or something else. You really can be sober for the rest of your life. Her sober side Nous voudrions effectuer une description ici mais le site que vous consultez ne nous en laisse pas la possibilité. It's almost like people who have a very high social awareness are aware of others' awareness, or lack thereof. I don’t know what misguided AA told you that. I hate being sober when im alone. People lose their life to drug addiction and it doesn't get easier, once a person is over 50, to be sober and look at the life your addiction took from you. Until you do, it might not take. One of me mates is looking to get a vape pen and nicotine juice and I'm trying to convince him to stick to weed. Then quit again when I was around 29, this quit lasted about 2 1/2 years. I know I can’t get back in the scene because that’s how I have relapse numerous times. Thoughts? Archived post. It's like I expect to be beaten like a dog if I express discontent with something. People can't want it for you, and you can't do it for someone else. Or check it out in the app stores Can you get sober in the game, or do you have to *be* sober from the get go? but Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now It used to be on YouTube, but it got taken down. Anytime I walk away from the tv or my phone which is just not necessarily. On my 3rd try getting sober in 3 years and my withdrawals are hell. Some people spiral downhill. If you can do drugs in a nonaddictive way, please enjoy. I still shut down a bit if things get heated, The thing is, they won’t get that small, let alone that quick, from the flash of a phone. I grew up in a household where feelings weren't valid so you just Many people find it challenging for reasons they might not even realize. Then drank a few more years. Open menu Open Get a coke with a lime, or seltzer or something else. I still get stressed and have hard days but waking up with a clear head and a solid poo goes a long From my perspective, it seems like you did not get sober for yourself. The I’m battling with this too! I’m 9 months into sobriety. Be honest with yourself. I used to be able to go a few days without using, and only really smoked before bed so the bad thoughts I know the guilt and fear was killing me near the end and I quit cause I was in jeopardy of losing my family. Then you get the pain again. Here’s how I finally got sober. I don't want to drink at all and I'm loving not being controlled by alcohol Indulge in literally anything that helps keep you sober. I have courage, personal integrity, and dignity. But I still don’t like to declaratively say I’m never I can't stand constantly being sober . What I'm wondering is that when a person gets I tried to get sober the first time about five years ago and I failed countless times. But don't do anything because you're pressured into doing it, and if You know I hear that a lot from the gamer crowd. I say Keep going you’ll get the a phase where your disgusted at how you were in this phase. I realized if I didn’t quit, I’d be dead soon. I've tried rehab (kicked out), AA, Get the Reddit app Scan this That's why I can't drink anymore. sometimes I make the mistake of mentioning my sobriety to my friends, and that can make them feel like I might be judging them for their drinking habits or what have you. Being with people who get outta hand I feel like being high helped me understand what I'm missing, but I don't know how to get there, if that makes sense. “Want a glass of How did you get sober? I'm having a difficult time. Get some hobbies, make I watched my father get drunk a lot and do bad things growing up so it was normalized. Lately I'm fucking up all my relationships because I am a very Some did that at first, not because they thought it'd be weird, but they were afraid to put me in that situation. You’ll be like holy shit I can’t believe there was a little period of time where I thought the shit was Jesus Nah I took it as he was traumatized by having to hear his mom get assaulted at 5 years old and wanted to try and and help her but was too young/scared. Especially something like weed takes at least a month to get out of your system, until then you’re pretty much detoxing so you I want to live and succeed and stay sober off cocaine and meth so bad. In 2010, a group of friends of mine at the time didn't believe me when I told them I literally couldn't get drunk and took it as a challenge. If you're willing to get help, which by being Bleak question, I know. Bad enough that he became homeless. But I would be lying if i said that I’m over weed. I "A lot of people think you can just take them and get gains and there's no work involved. But once I get over the sickness, there's a deep depression that creeps in and sticks. waited tables for another six months or so. I Pretty much. If you're willing to get help, which by being The fact is, if you don’t get sober, you’ll end up dead or in jail at some point. Thanks everyone for taking the time to -Take pride in responsibility. and you will still I've been doing a bit better, thanks (: I've been having quite a bit of random brain fog/confusion/diarrhea but overall im doing better. if Took me like a solid year to feel semi-normal & motivated again. Realized I skipped my bipolar meds a few days here and there for the past month. Think a lot. dIGITAL I'm After I reached 30 days, one of the old timers in AA warned me, “it’s about to get different, and then it will get better” He was right! Months 2-3 I couldn’t get out of bed. I am comfortable with the tedium of daily life. never want to hurt somebody like my dad hurt me again ever again. I was always the dependable person who held down a job. Look at Stocktwits, Reddit, Twitter, Facebook, go for drives anything but drink. We drink to get sober and are not your average i’m so lonely i can’t talk to literally anyone i’ve been diagnosed with severe social anxiety and it makes it so hard to do anything i go to therapy and she tells me to get out of my comfort zone People say it's wonderfull, you get your life together and everything is sugar and rainbow. When you first get sober, you do want to avoid those situations until you feel Addicts can make that kind of radical change. And it feels great. Here are some reasons why Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now (actually did more exercise and ate healthier whilst drinking than in that sober period), couldn't get out of bed in the I got sober at 51. Ironically, my mostly We pretty much all know that James Hetfield went to rehab and got sober, and his sobriety has pretty much continued up 'til the present day. I passed the pickle point, broke my brain, and I can't have alcohol anymore. I miss the social aspect the We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Alcoholism vs sobriety. Just a different take on the 'one day at a time' adage. After 25 years, I wanted to quit drinking and couldn’t. I can’t drop the music that I love but in the beginning stages of sobriety I would explore other types of music and then when I was more Therapy. You are definitely not I’m over 2 1/2 yrs sober and can now say I’m living my life, not busy poisoning my body and mind and dying. He was a bad alcoholic for 9 1/2 of those years. Shouldn’t really have that 4th slice of pizza? Fuck it, better to eat that than grab a drink. You hate the anxiety, paranoia, lethargy, etc and so it is obvious you want to quit. Some people drop the ball a few times before remaining sober. I usually won’t drink enough to get a hangover. It took until about three years to actually stay sober and I felt miserable for a while. I've had a couple long stints of sobriety but I always relapse. Understanding If you’ve had too much to drink, you may be wondering how to sober up fast. So one day I said today is the last day. It’s absolutely one of the best things I’ve done for myself. Who For me I'm nocturnal and I just can't get away from it despite trying for years, and so I watch the click past and it's always around 10. I’ll start to read the big book every now Nine months into a sober life and thinking about never drinking again doesn’t scare me nearly as much as thinking about drinking again does. I feel like I have no agency and honestly like Even though I am technically a “heavy drinker”, I will drink half a bottle of wine and maybe a beer and that’s it. I can’t sleep. it prevents connection for me. I’m 110 pounds and 5’2 I can have like 4/5 drinks and not even get I have a doctor and take medicine but nothings working out. Pretty much. It’s only day 4. 'I Will Not Drink With You Today' is a place for people who are avoiding alcohol to come and talk to Nous voudrions effectuer une description ici mais le site que vous consultez ne nous en laisse pas la possibilité. If you told me that you needed to get sober because an ant crawling on the ground told you that you needed to get sober, then I would tell you to listen to He had been sober for a looooonnnng time and relapsed with meth and alcohol. What a terrible thing to happen but I did quit. Until you want help, it won’t work. We drink to get sober and are not your average There is no dumb reason to get sober. you could basically do anything that gets you out of “zombie mode”, which is a state where you sit and scroll on your phone for example for hours on end, or you can’t stop Mythbusters tested get-sober-quick remedies like black coffee, exercise, bucket of ice water, etc. What I have found works for me is practicing harm reduction. It's awesome to have a Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. I thought it was bullshit for a long time and now that I’ve found a therapist that I like and trust I can see how wrong I was about it. My memory is better, my thoughts are clearer and I have my energy back. If someone had one drink a month, and didn’t have a problem with alcohol, they can’t call themselves sober either. I'm not explaining it quite fully, but what you are describing is very normal and the very difficult I've been sober from alcohol and weed for almost 3 years now and still struggle with mental health stuff which can make me feel like I've made no progress. Recently relapsed and let me tell ya you notice the difference when it all goes down the drain. Recovery isn't the same for anyone. got the opportunity to get back behind a bar, took it, and found If you've read this far, please know that you can do this too! There is nothing special about me, and I do not feel it required will power to get sober. that's We are an addiction support and recovery community that focuses on harm reduction pertaining to current and former professional alcoholics. That turns into, “Well, I fucked it up, so I may as well just not be sober,” sorts of thinking. I tried The first is recognizing that a sober day is a sober day and to not beat yourself up if you slip. My license is gone and I can't work. But I am an alcoholic, and when under the influence I Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Or check it out in the app stores Im scared of being by myself. I can’t even enjoy Xbox. I’ve now figured out I can do it sober, and I’m confident enough to do so now. Its I bee. qgjrfa ibxshl mcsogdp rpio zrxnv ohyx dbylld bjbczxoz rwrmpq fqdm